The Surprising Truth about Bullying and Bullies

Name: Mei Arum I.S

NIM: 11004269

Class: E

The Surprising Truth about Bullying and Bullies

The evidence

·         While character education and values clarification approaches can have merit, as a reader of this internet magazine, hopefully you have learned that these methods always fail with about 11-14% of youngsters.

·         These youngsters lack a conscience or remorse, so character end and values clarification methods simply won't work at all since those methods require that the child be able to care and have compassion. Since conduct disorders are the most misbehaved students of all, they are also often the bullies. Now, you know why conventional approaches may have limited success reducing bullying.

·         But it is not the law that children raised in violence inevitably will be violent. Part of the problem is that youth professionals still use one-size-fits-all methods to work with students. Students are not all the same, and until professionals learn to choose different methods for different types of students, then it may seem that "nothing works" with some out-of-control youngsters

·         Sadly, only mental health workers are usually taught to take this step, and other youth professionals are often not provided this vital information-- information that can literally change the future for many youngsters.

·         TRUTH just because a child is raised around hitting, screaming and threats, does not condemn that youngster to be that way. Certainly, teaching peaceful behavior is a much more difficult task when a student's dad is threatening and coercing his offspring, but it is not the law that children raised in violence inevitably will be violent.

The conclusions:

ü   The fail of the character education and the value are 11-14% because it is like a reader of magazine or internet, and learn the method of bully.

ü  The lack of youngsters is conscience or remorse, so the method of bullying is not work normally. They can also bullies, so it is not the good character of students.

ü  Actually the students are not same, they are different, and they have many characters, so we must learn with a different method, so it will be better than we subjected them with the same method, because sometime they can’t be controlled.

ü  It is very sad, that The staff, who he or she working focus in health just know the step to treat the  youngsters who they contaminated with alcohol, so another youngsters are often not provide the top information of the worker health. They were like an egoist person.

ü  Raised in violence of the students with the same method of bully will not work, because the character of them (students) are not same.

ü  Learn with a peace is not easy, it is very difficult, it is the task of the father is threatening coercing his offspring.

ü  Hitting, screaming and threats are the fact of the bully, but it was not the best way.

My judgment

The Surprising Truth about Bullying and Bullies is very nice article to read. The author expresses his opinion, the entire positive and the negative of Bullying, he expresses also the benefit of the method and differentiate that the students are not same, so the method of bullying them must see the character, it grounded on the character of education and value, it will be success if the person learn with peacefulness or tranquility, it is the difficult task to do right?.

Attention is not focused on the meeting or workshop, the author wrote that  “When youth professionals focus solely or primarily on bullying, it may be a bit like seeing the forest but not the trees” I’m very agree with the written of author , the youth will be best, if the person did the best on their life, in here the author purpose to us, not only focus on bullying, but focus on the problem and the effect of bully, the bully is not bullying the students or child when they did mistake, but the bully will be a motivation, if they use a character education and the value.

I’m very  like the written of author “In reality, there are methods that can make a huge difference helping children raised in violence to forgo aggression, but first, youth professionals must start using these more targeted, sophisticated approaches. Often, when "nothing works," you are working with a conduct disordered child, and switching to a different set of tools can make a huge difference. It tells us, there are method can change children to think that the violence is not best to solve the problem. The youngster must to choose the way, the first is approximation method, and it will be work if the youngsters allowing the children to solve the problem with their way, and the youngsters keep on cared for the children.

I think to regard of children with the peacefulness is difficult, especially for youngsters. But the problem can solve by the bully, but keep on the character education and the value. And not judge the children are same, because they have different character and the emotional of them are different, the youngsters learn with a peacefulness or tranquility to care of children. The youth is the golden time of life, monitoring of children is important. But if they did something mistake, don’t be bullying them, but the first method is approximation method, asked them to tell us, what is the problem of them.